When there are problems in bed... see a doctor!

Even though it is difficult to see a doctor when problems in your sex life occur, it is the best way to discover the possible causes for your problem and then get rid of the problem as well. More about this in the next lines.

If we try to somehow categorize the problems that occur during intercourse, we come up with two major categories. The problems are physical, somatic or psychological, emotional. But to us materialists it is all the same. The biggest problem here is finding out the root of the problem because we cannot always find out what caused the symptoms from the symptoms themselves. Erectile dysfunction is in most cases a physical defect (urologist Bojan Štrus recently told us that only 20 percent of erectile dysfunctions is psychological). And these problems are in most cases curable nowadays! No matter the cause of the defect, a good therapist will know how to point you in the right direction. When you go to your own doctor, he will help choose the right form of therapy. You should also go to your own doctor if you are not sure of your sexual orientation, or if you have relationship problems. All this information helps the doctor direct you to the appropriate specialist.

There are two great myths in our society. One is that a doctor knows everything just because he/she is a doctor. Just like any chef is not necessarily a good chef, or a musician may not be good, we also notice that there are some doctors who perform their duties worse than others, despite the same formal education, or if we put it differently, some doctors just focused more on certain areas. For some of these differences we can blame the system (overworking, routine), but all the rest can be attributed to education and an individual's talent. So do not be afraid of switching doctors if you are in doubt about their professionalism. Especially with sex, it is extremely important to have an understanding, warm and caring doctor.

The other myth is that doctors cannot judge our conditions because they do not know or understand us and thus treats us unfairly. This second myth seems more widely spread. Especially those people who have psychological problems do not understand how a doctor could help them. They are afraid doctors will ask about awkward details, that they will impose their views and opinions, that they will change and not be themselves any more, but the product of doctors. Besides that, doctors will never understand what makes us mad, how we feel, what our partners are like why they do not understand us... People are scared of being ridiculed and that the doctor will not keep what had been said to himself.

Anyone who is experiencing sexual problems, I urge you not to hesitate and see your doctor. Just talking can solve many things. Even if the doctors will not know the solution, they will know how to direct you to the appropriate specialist. Besides, doctors usually understand what you are going through and how hard it was for you to come to them and so they will counsel you even more correctly and without inhibitions. Believe me, it is easier for doctors to speak words like penis or lack of sexual lust in front of you than for you in front of them. If you come across a negative attitude, arrogance, mocking, switch to a different doctor.