How to Recognise Orgasmic Disorder?

It shouldn’t be taken for granted that everyone can reach an orgasm as the pinnacle of their sexual enjoyment – some men and women suffer from orgasmic disorder.

Difficulty reaching orgasm is also called orgasmic disorder and usually means that you can’t reach an orgasm or it takes a very long time to reach it. Male orgasmic disorder also means that a man ejaculates too quickly during sexual intercourse. Orgasmic disorder is also described in cases of less strong and intense orgasms, or when an orgasm is accompanied by pain. Despite some common characteristics, male orgasmic disorder differs in certain segments from female orgasmic disorder.

Female orgasmic disorder

The female orgasm hasn’t been the focus of attention and research for long. Up to that moment, the male orgasm was much more important because it is vital for fertilisation and reproduction, while the “sole” purpose of the female orgasm is pleasure. Women are usually much less familiar with their body and don’t explore it as men do during their teenage phase, meaning that they don’t know what kind of touching they find pleasurable and arousing to help them reach an orgasm. Erogenous zones, such as the clitoris and the famous G-spot, are also much more hidden and a woman has to make some effort to locate them and learn to stimulate them. Orgasmic disorder, however, doesn’t imply that a woman or her partner stimulate her erogenous zones incorrectly. The term orgasmic disorder is used if a woman is unable to reach orgasm despite various forms of stimulation. This is also called anorgasmia, which is classified into primary and secondary anorgasmia. Primary anorgasmia means that a woman has never achieved an orgasm in her life and secondary anorgasmia means that she achieves an orgasm during masturbation, but not while having sexual intercourse with her partner, or she was able to reach orgasm in a certain period, but now she is unable to. Causes of primary and secondary anorgasmia are mostly of a psychological and not physiological nature. They may be associated with a negative experience in a woman’s sexual life, the shame that some women feel during sexual intercourse and similar.

Male orgasmic disorder

There are two symptoms of male orgasmic disorder: if a man doesn’t reach an orgasm despite long stimulation, or has a problem with premature ejaculation. This means that he ejaculates his semen (which is associated with orgasm, of course) too quickly and makes it impossible to have sexual intercourse. Some experts also distinguish between primary and secondary premature ejaculation. The first is the problem that exists through the man’s whole life, while the second develops later in life due to various reasons that haven’t been explored entirely. Otherwise, this is a disorder that men most often complain about and can represent a formidable obstacle to a satisfactory sexual life, especially because it is associated with various negative feelings, such as the feelings of shame and guilt. Men also feel less masculine and unable to satisfy their partner. The inability to attain an orgasm may be the result of specific drugs, too much stimulation and, of course, various psychological and emotional factors. In that case, orgasmic disorder is diagnosed only when various objective influences are eliminated, such as medications, illicit drugs, alcohol and similar.

For women and men who have a problem with attaining orgasm, it is recommended that they think about the reasons for such a problem in their concrete case. First, naturally, they have to eliminate physical causes, which can only be done by a doctor.

Learn more about orgasm problems in our Lover's Guide.