When Should You Refrain From Having Sex?
Even though sex makes you happy and gives you immeasurable pleasure, sometimes you should refrain from it.
Don't force yourself to have sex. It just won't do. (PhotoXpress)
When feelings aren't mutual
If you are deeply in love with somebody and that person does not return your feelings, sex with him or her will just hurt you more. This especially holds true for women, who stereotypically connect sex and love. Even though your love interest might want sex as well, do not engage in a romance, if you are unsure of what he or she really is thinking. Maybe he just likes to go from woman to woman, which would only make you another notch on his belt.
Sex with a stranger without protection
Refrain from such sex, because not only can you get pregnant, if you are not on the pill, you are taking a far greater risk - sexually transmitted diseases. Even though you might be burning with passion, do not even engage in oral sex, if you have no condom at hand. The smartest thing to do is to not even touch each other, since that can quickly make you go too far. Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and HIV are just three of the various diseases you can catch by having unprotected sex.
When you have no desire for sex
Even though good sex is one of the key elements of a happy relationship, there is no rule about the frequency of sex needed. It depends on the couple, their libido, current stage in life (worries, stress, and important events), their age and if it is a new relationship or a well settled one.
Some say that you should always satisfy your partner, but you can also do that in other ways, not just with sex. If you are not in the mood for it, it probably will not even give you pleasure, your thoughts will wander and if your partner notices, he will probably be hurt. Openly admit to him that you are just not in the mood. Giving up sex for a couple of days can also have positive effects. Your libido will grow and you will like the idea of having sex more and more. Do not use sex as a method of relaxation when you are angry or depressed, because that way it will completely lose its meaning and become reduced to a method to suppress problems.
When you are not feeling well
Even though it might sound funny, a too big meal, problems with digestion and sickness are all reasons to refrain from having sex. If you are not feeling well, you should not be having sex. As a matter of fact, even David Beckham got a strict no-sex prescription for a couple of months due to a serious injury.
Certain medical conditions, like heart problems, diabetes and multiple sclerosis can also affect the quality of sex. Problems with the nervous system are often detrimental to erection. So that such patients do not have to constantly give up sex, they should look for proper treatment.
When other activities are more interesting than sex
If you are having an interesting debate with your partner, or if you are watching an exciting movie, there is no reason to choose sex instead. Even if you have not had sex in awhile, it is definitely better for sex to come spontaneously than out of habit, boredom or because you feel you have to do it. Sex is always better if partners connect in other ways as well. By talking, cuddling and coddling each other.
Such moments of intimacy can lead to interesting foreplay, or it can happen that you will get to know each other through different activities even better. Sex marathons are nice, but let us admit that they do not uncover much about our partner's thoughts and mutual compatibility.
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