Ready to Have Sex yet?

With some it just happens, while others take their time to get ready to have sex. Now, are you ready to have sex?

Some people believe that the way you lose your virginity affects the way you see sex later in life. But there also others, who think that losing your virginity doesn't have any effect on your sex life later on. You're supposed to just get done with it, and that's it.

Does the way how you lose your virginity affect the way you see sex later on?

Yes and no. If the experiences surrounding your first time are very negative or if there’s abuse involved, this actually can affect the way you see sex from then on forever. You thought that you’re ready to have sex, but only suffered pain and fear when it happened. This can make someone abstain from sex indefinitely. Suffering abuse is a terrible thing in itself. The trauma it causes is disturbing enough and it is far from the norm where there’s consent of both partners involved. Losing your virginity can also be painful and uncomfortable even if there’s no abuse as such. Especially, when you're not ready to have sex yet but are talked into doing it by your partner. It won’t be fun if you force yourself to get through with it either. But an average negative first sexual experience that is soon followed by a more pleasant, enjoyable sexual experience, won’t affect the way you’ll see sex later on.

When are we ready to have sex then?

Many teen magazines carry the same massage. You have to feel that you’re ready to have sex and wait for the right person to do it with. Well, ok, but how do you really know that you’re ready to have sex? If you wouldn’t mind doing it, this doesn’t mean that you're ready to have sex yet. Being ready to have sex means that you want to do it, and that you feel a need deep inside that can only be fulfilled by having sex with your partner. Being ready to have sex also means that you’re fully aware of all the risks concerning having sex.

The main risks are sexually transmitted diseases and an unwanted pregnancy. But there’s also an additional risk in the form of one of the parties involved getting too emotionally linked to the other. An emotional connection is something wonderful if it’s a mutual thing. Christians believe that two people, who share their bodies with each other, forge a special bond, which can only be fulfilling if this takes place between two people who are married.

Guys usually don’t have any physical troubles when it comes to being ready to have sex. They experience wet dreams and begin to masturbate quite early. But girls sometimes don’t know their own body so well. So, before your boyfriend or your girlfriend goes about exploring your body, get to know it yourself. Check out what you like and try to bring yourself to an orgasm. Once you know what you like when you’re on your own, you’ll be able to have lots more fun when someone else joins you.

What do we need after we’re ready to have sex?

Ok, so you’re ready to have sex. Now, to finally have sex, you need a caring and understanding partner whom you’re attracted to and want to have sex with. Before you finally decide to have sex, take some time to explore each other’s bodies. Also take your time to explore some forms of sex without penetration. Use your hands, your fingers, and try oral sex too. Think clearly! Now, pick a nice, comfortable place to have sex without having to worry that you’ll get bruised or that someone could catch you at it. The pill and/or condoms are a must. If one of you already had sex before, use a condom! Be careful to have enough privacy and keep the condoms where you can reach them quickly. Don’t forget that just the guy’s erection isn’t enough to do it. The vagina has to be moist enough or the girl will suffer additional and unnecessary pain.

Keep in mind that most girls bleed when they lose their virginity. If you don’t want to ruin the sheets, cover them with a towel or with something else that’ll prevent stains. As we mentioned, most girls bleed when they lose their virginity. This means that not all of them do. If a girl didn’t have sex before but doesn’t bleed when she’s deflowered, there’s nothing wrong with her at all. She still was a virgin, the same as her friends who bled when they were deflowered. When you’re ready to have sex, it won’t do you any harm if you get some technical advice on how it's supposed to be done. Well, we've got some for you. You can find them under this link.

When it comes to guys, nothing changes for them physically after they had sex for the first time. But some can get hugely bigheaded after they’ve done it.