Myths About Low Sexual Desire
Low sexual desire is something that all couples fear. Before you start worrying, check your knowledge about the subject.
Low sexual desire is often connected to lack of hormones. (Photoxpress)
The indisputable fact is that sexual desire diminishes with years. But the problem appears when one of the partners wants to have intercourse but the other does not find enough sexual desire to really enjoy in it. Many times the insufficient knowledge about sexuality is to blame for dissatisfaction of a couple. Check out if you know enough about it.
Myth #1: Hormones are to blame for low sexual desire
Sexual desire is often connected to hormones or the absence of hormones. But the experts, one of them is also Dr. Juan J. Remos from the Miami Institute for Age Management and Intervention, warn that sexual desire is more complex than it seems at first glance and that a certain consensus exists about it. It is affected by many things, for example 
your diet, cardiovascular structure of the body, mental health, relationship to one's own body, self-image, stress level and also the quality of your relationship with a partner. If you are experiencing low sexual desire you should not put all the blame on hormones but you have to look deeper. In most cases low sexual desire is connected with problems in life, unhappiness in a relationship or bad self-esteem.
Myth # 2: High sexual desire is conditioned by deep emotional bond
That is not entirely true. It is true that emotional bond brings the feelings of closeness, trust and enjoyment in sexuality but a deep emotional bond can have its negative effects, too. Some couples become so connected that they become best friends and therefore do not feel any sort of sexual desire towards each other. The key is to focus on sexual attraction instead of the emotional bonding. Show your partner you desire him/her sexually and the lust will not fade away.
Myth # 3: If one of you is not in the mood, then it's not going to happen
Compromises have to be made in all areas of life. For example, you have to decide where to live, how many children you want to have, which car to buy, how to run the household, etc. Sexual life of a couple is an area which requires conversation and compromises, too. You cannot expect from someone to live in a forced abstinence because it would be unfair. In such case it is crucial to talk about problems with sexual desire in a serious manner and find out what caused the problem. In worst case scenario, you can make a sort of a compromise which will satisfy both of you. Of course by mutual agreement and not by force or any other form of violence.
Myth # 4: First solve the emotional problems then deal with low sexual desire
The most common opinion is that emotional and other problems have a priority to sexual problems. But usually it is quite the opposite. Many couples understand each other much better in other areas of life than when it comes to sexuality. Sexual dissatisfaction affects many areas of life. People can become very cranky, irritable and annoying because of sexual problems and soon other problems arise which can lead to serious quarrels and resentment. Therefore it is very important to solve the problems with low sexual desire and talk openly about sexuality. Sexuality should not be a taboo because keeping silent about it will definitely not make you happy.
Read more about treatment of sexual problems in our Lover's Guide.
