Interview: Eight Years Without Sex

19.04.2011 | By: A. B.

This is an interview with a young man who has been without sex for eight years. He rather devotes his time to more important matters.

Sex without love with the significant other does not exist and that is why he has not had intimate encounters with women for eight years. (PhotoXpress)

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Introduction

Have you ever asked yourselves why some people do not have sexual relations? What is the real reason that they are not interested in sex any more, albeit their youth and good health. The interview with a unanimous 30-year old man will, without doubt, give you answers to your dilemmas.

“She cheated on me and broke my heart”

To start with: when was the last time you had sexual intercourse?

Well, it was a long time. I do not even remember it clearly any more. It happened eight years ago, when I had a girlfriend with whom I broke up later.

Is that the reason why you do not have sex any more?

I do not know. Maybe it was at that time because I was depressed and sad. I hated women and I got the feeling that every one of them will cheat on me.

Did your last girlfriend therefore cheat on you with another man?

Exactly. And not only once. Of course, I had no idea about her affairs. When I caught her lying, I was completely heartbroken. I got the idea that all women are whores and none of them will ever be worthy of my penis. That I will not have a relationship any more as well as fall in love again. And that I will live alone and in peace.

Why have you not find a lover in all this time?

I have not thought about it. Sex is part of love for me, and since then I have been afraid of love like the devil is afraid of the cross.

Do you still find women sexually attractive?

I am not going to say that they do not turn me on. They are the most beautiful beings, but I did not want to see them in that way. I preferred to consider them as an enemy. As the beings who broke my heart.

“Sex is part of love for me”

What about women who broke your heart before your last girlfriend?

I had quite a few girlfriends, but things did not work out. The idyll was always spoilt. Maybe because of me too. I was not paying enough attention. I tried it with the last girlfriend, so I could not understand when she deceived me so badly.

Was your sex life ever important to you and did you enjoy it?

As I already said, sex is part of love for me. If I love a woman, I also have sexual relations with her that satisfy me.

No offence, but it sounds as if you were never satisfied with your sex life. Am I right?

I was never a sex maniac, obsessed with sex, a man who needs to have sex every day. But that does not mean that I did not like it. I was completely satisfied and I missed sex if it did not happen for a long time.

How is it possible that you do not miss sex now, after eight years?

Who said I do not miss it? Of course I do, but I do not want casual sex. I want to have sex with a woman who will truly love me. But because I do not believe in that any more, I have given up and got used to the idea that there is no sex life.

And how does a person get used to the life without sex?

It is rather easy. Longer you do not have sex, more you get used to that and you just manage without it. Sex is not like water and food, which means that you can have a good life without sexual relations. Sex is a need which you have to be able to control.

“When I get an urge, I help myself”

And how do you control it?

That is easy. I do not get upset intentionally. I do not watch porn films, read erotic magazines, or go to naturist beaches.

What about your physiological need?

It is the same as in others. I help myself. Nothing new and shocking. It seems that you have misunderstood me. I am not saying that I do not experience orgasms. I only said that I did not have sex relations and women did not interest me in such a way.

Are you telling me that you could, without any problem, turn down a completely naked woman who would sneak into your bed in the middle of the night?

If I did not love her and she did not love me, I would turn her down flat because I would not want any trouble.

I do not believe that. Especially because you have not been with a woman for eight years. If nothing else, your lower head could not resist the temptation, right?

If nothing else, your lower head could not resist the temptation, right?

My life is controlled by the upper head. The lower one never decided what comes next. This happens to weaklings who cannot resist themselves. I am able to control myself, so I have no problems with that.

Basically, it is self-discipline?

Exactly. It is the essence of everything. That is my decision and that is the way things will remain.

Will this last forever and will you never have sex again?

I do not know. That is the way things stand for now. If some day things are different, they will be different.

And have you ever thought that you might be attracted to men?

I have thought of that, but it is not true. I still like women, but I will not go to bed with them only to satisfy my sexual needs. This was never my style and it never will be.