Factors of Sexual Attraction (Part 2)

The second article presents some other factors that are responsible for the sexual attraction of a person.

Sexual attraction of voice and gestures

Sexual attraction is enhanced by sexy gestures, for example a woman stroking her cleavage, biting her lips, smiling, or a confident walk of a man, sitting wide, etc. A deep voice of a man is very attractive to women, according to studies conducted in the US and Canada.

Dr. David Feinberg from the Canadian McMaster University came to the conclusion that men with deeper voice have more children. A man's voice helps women to subconsciously judge which man is more masculine and fertile.

Money is a big factor of sexual attraction

Sad but true, women see rich and successful men as more sexually attractive. Robert Cialdini wrote in his book Influence that this factor of sexual attraction is partly conditioned by women's upbringing which was mostly influenced by Disney's filmography. Their films and cartoons show men, mostly princes, as wealthy and successful but also romantic and manly.

People who are rich and successful are seen as more healthy than the rest. This has a lot to do with instincts because women think that such men will take better care of their status.

Personal wishes and expectations

Our perception of what is sexually attractive is heavily influenced by our wishes, which can be conscious or subconscious. The psychologists are convinced that women are looking for a father figure in every partner they have. That does not necessarily mean that they are attracted to someone who is physically similar to the father but it can only mean that the person has similar characteristics. These characteristics are not always wanted and pleasant but they can also be sexually attracted to a person who later comes out as violent and has problems with alcohol- the same as their father.

Some people support the theory that women search for similar men all their lives, either men who are similar to their father or men who break their heart. So why do we look for the wrong type of people and why are we also sexually attracted to them? Of course we don't do it intentionally, but we look for partners that suit our personality in a given moment. If we know deep down inside that we do not deserve to be lucky there's a possibility that we will be attracted to the so called 'bad boys'. Of course that is only one of the theories. Women are attracted to 'bad boys' because the good ones are too boring and predictable. We are also attracted to characteristics such as kindness, gentleness, romanticism. If the person is a great lover then his or her average looks suddenly do not matter anymore.

Sexual need affects the sexual attraction

Our perception of sexual attraction is sometimes conditioned by a strong sexual desire and in such cases we usually lower our standards. Sometimes we want to have intercourse badly and we do not care if the chosen partner is not prefect. The same can be said for summer adventures and one-night stands. Sexual attraction has nothing to do with the feelings but mostly with sexual instincts.