Don’t Inhibit Your Children’s Sexual Curiosity!

17.07.2012 | By: T. B.

Inhibiting sexual curiosity can quickly turn into sexual repression.

Inappropriate reactions to sexual curiosity lead to sexual repression. (PhotoXpress)

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A child’s sexual curiosity is exhibited very early

Children start expressing their sexual curiosity when it comes to sexual differences and their sexual organs at a very early age. They admire breasts, grab their sexual organs, show them. Children do this in a very relaxed way and without inhibitions. Parents respond in different ways. Only few parents manage not to repress children’s sexual curiosity. There are, therefore, different responses to children’s sexual curiosity – from blushing, to prohibition and even physical punishment. Children mirror and internalise the parents’ response because mirroring is an important children’s learning technique. Children become reserved or sexually curious in a forbidden sense. An appropriate response is important for the child to develop into an adult who accepts him/herself and others. Sexual curiosity can turn into sexual repression quickly.

Sexual repression

Sexual repression doesn’t mean that some swear by sadomasochistic games, while others don’t (well, the problem occurs if such two people become partners). It’s a problem when it’s not a decision that you don’t accept something, but you’re afraid of it and can’t express your sexuality. Besides fear, there’s also a feeling of guilt that you want to do this. Sexual repression is the source of many problems in Western society.

How to awaken sexual curiosity again?

Gradually. It’s unreal to expect to wake up one day and be rid of your restrictions. Many force themselves and pretend to be something they’re not. This works only for a while. In time, reality hits you on the head. The feelings of guilt and shame can be even greater. So, if you feel you want change, get to work. And one more thing – don’t change because of others. If you don’t feel the desire to change yourself, it may happen you start resenting your partners because they made you do this.