How to Get Rid of Her Sexual Fear(s)?

Why won't she have sex with me? Have you ever heard of sexual fear?

Are you wondering if your partner does not find you attractive anymore? Do you think she likes you but forms a distance when you try to touch her? Maybe the reason for it lies in her sexual fear.

Sexual fear #1: I am not sure I want to do it

Sex means intimacy and is an act that requires the whole person. Sexual fear is the reason why women are often nervous and insecure when they go to bed for the first time with a new partner. If you have second thoughts about being ready for having relations with a new partner or if you only want to do it to satisfy him, you are definitely not ready! Trust the guy. Believe me, he will understand and wait until you are totally relaxed and ready for some unforgettable action. If he does not, think hard if he even deserves to have you in his bed.

Sexual fear #2: My vagina looks strange

The vagina has a very special shape. Many people compare it to a flower. And indeed, one of the most beautiful and arousing sights for a man is looking at an aroused vagina. Of course women are much more critical towards our sexual organ. Some of you may think your flower looks strange. Why? How many vaginas have you actually seen up close? Just like people, sexual organs differ with each individual. Some have more hair, others have bigger lips and all of them are BEAUTIFUL! Whether you want to shave it or not, that depends on yours and your partner’s tastes.

Sexual fear #3: Sex hurts

Although I adore sex, I have also felt pain during it. It hurt mostly when I was nervous, not relaxed, or my partner ‘rode’ me longer than usually. If you do not have much experience with making love (or if it has been a while since you last did it), you may feel some pressure at the beginning. The most common cause for pain is lack of foreplay and consequently lack of moisture. A lubricant is a welcome accessory, but the most important thing is that the sex is hot, satisfying and caring. There should be lots of kissing, touching and stimulating the clitoris, which will help to keep you moist. If you still feel pain, the best place to go is to your gynecologist.

Sexual fear #4: I fancy a woman – am I a lesbian?

Already in 1950, dr. Kinsey invented a scale of heterosexuality. The scale determined the sexual preferences of an individual with the help of a questionnaire. The scale has been proving for decades that there are very few completely heterosexual people. Most of us have homoerotic tendencies, which does not mean that in the real world a partner of the same sex would satisfy us emotionally, or even less sexually.

Sexual fear #5: Is masturbating a sin?

Interestingly, many women still believe that it is, even in the Western society. Let me repeat: masturbating is a wonderful way of discovering your body, doing away with tension in the body and spoiling yourself. Which of these things mentioned is a sin? If you have never masturbated, start exploring your vagina. While stroking it, always keep your fingers moist and most of all be gentle and get rid of the feeling of shame.

Conquer your sexual fear!