7 Rules to Make Your Erotic Fantasies Come True

Before you decide to make your erotic fantasies come true, you should read the 7 golden rules - they will help you avoid anger and distress. Pure enjoyment guaranteed!

Some erotic fantasies are meant to be only an addition to masturbation which means it would be very hard to make them real or you would simply become scared if you had the opportunity to indulge in them. On the other hand, it might also happen that the reality would destroy your erotic fantasy because it wouldn't be carried out in a way that you have imagined.

If you and your partner are in a serious relationship and tempted to bring a certain erotic fantasy to life, then you should first have a serious talk and follow the 7 golden rules below.

1. Erotic fantasy rule: Have an honest talk

You and your partner should talk about the negative and positive consequences of realizing your erotic fantasies. If you talk about it when the incident is already behind you, some serious troubles might arise.

2. Erotic fantasy rule: Pretending during intercourse

When you and your partner have sexual intercourse, you should make a test and say your fantasies out loud so that you see if the erotic fantasy really does excite you or if you already have troubles with it. For example, if your partner feels offended if you talk about sexual intercourse with another man, imagine what he would feel like if it really happened.

3. Erotic fantasy rule: Watch a porn film

Watch a porn film that talks about your erotic fantasies. If you are both turned on by what is happening in the film then you are on a good way to make your erotic fantasy come true. If only one of you is turned on and the other one disgusted, then this is what might happen in reality, too.

4. Erotic fantasy rule: Make a script

Before you realize your erotic fantasy make a detailed script. Even though the fantasy might lack in spontaneity it is very advisable to prepare a sort of a script in which you think of all the possible scenarios that might happen.

5. Erotic fantasy rule: You can always stop

The whole point of an erotic fantasy is that you both enjoy it. That means that you have to make a deal and when the happening is not interesting to one of you anymore, you or your partner can quit anytime and the other partner must do the same.

6. Erotic fantasy rule: Only one conversation is not enough

Even though you made a deal to try and realize a certain sexual fantasy, this is definitely not enough, because your mood can change at any time or maybe the moment when you had the conversation was very special. So you should talk about it several times, weigh all the options and decide if the desire is really big enough.

7. Erotic fantasy rule: Do not get scared

If you successfully went through the first six of our rules then do not let anything stop you. Let  yourself go and realize your erotic fantasy! 

When the erotic fantasy becomes a reality

The book Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex describes an interesting case of a woman who regularly fantasized about having intercourse with a stranger she met in a nightclub. One night she decided to realize her erotic fantasy in a bar. She found a stranger and had intercourse with him the very same night. Unfortunately she was very disappointed because the intercourse was very bad which means that she rather returned to her erotic fantasy.

Read more about sexual fantasies in our Lover's Guide.