6 Sexual Convictions You Have to Disregard!

We stick to some convictions, even though they’re outdated. Don’t you ever think it’s about time for something new?

Sexual conviction # 1: Good intercourse lasts hours and hours

Correction: Good intercourse lasts as long as you want it to last.

It can be a quickie when you’re expecting the in-laws and it can get the adrenaline flowing. Allow your partners’ desires of having you here and now to fire you up. It can be marathon sex on Sunday morning, where you discover the forgotten erogenous zones and try all the positions you’re familiar with and perhaps a few others.

Sexual conviction #2: The man is the initiator

Correction: Women, take charge!

Usually the initiative is expected from one partner. In most cases this is the man, no matter how emancipated and horny the women are. End this! Men can hardly wait for women to take charge – they’ll feel more wanted and you’ll feel more self-confident, which will definitely raise the temperature in your bed (bathroom, couch, kitchen counter... ).

Sexual conviction #3: Each partner invests 50% effort into intercourse

Correction: This should apply to the annual budget, but each person should invest as much as he or she likes at a given moment.

This means that if your partner is tired, they can only rest and surrender to the pleasure, while you enjoy spoiling them. Who knows, maybe the 20-80% ratio will get you to 150% pleasure.

Sexual conviction #4: Intercourse is coitus

Correction: Intercourse can be anything.

Once we reach coitus, “real intercourse”, we feel that the pleasure during merely kissing or caressing is only for beginners. You probably still remember how much you enjoyed getting to know sexuality? Perhaps you could learn something from “beginners”: to be completely present in every kiss, every touch when it’s happening without hurrying to the ultimate goal – the orgasm.

Sexual conviction #5: Fantasies are private

Correction: Fantasies can be told to a partner as well. We can exchange them or make them come true together.

Exchanging fantasies will fire up your libidos and create feelings of even greater connection and trust. Watching an erotic movie or reading erotic literature can be a good start, then you can go to your own erotic scripts.

Old belief number 6: Once you know your partner, you know which buttons to push

Correction: Unless you’re in a relationship with a robot, everything can be changed.

Even if you think you know your partners inside out, continue exploring their body erogenous zones and desires change as the years go by. Discover one another again and your bonds will be stronger – even outside the bedroom.

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