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Written on: 7. May 2010 18:37
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itsabadlife
Topic creator
registered since: 07.05.2010
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a girl is my best friend in college. she's committed to some other person. i love her since 1 year. no1 knows this, but me. we've had many troubles in our friendship. she loves that guy a lot.
i know i love her more that that guy loves her.
its getting harder for me to see her with that guy, and to hide my feelings for long.
Please suggest what should i do
i'm afraid, if i tell her my feelings, she'll not be my frnd any more. i'm also afraid, because, she will never say yes to me because i'm not very good looking...
i love her...please help
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Written on: 8. May 2010 23:24
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lollypop
registered since: 08.03.2010
Posts: 63
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Welcome to the forum 
How long have you two known each other? And for how long has she known that guy?
How does she behave when she's with you? Does she talk about him a lot? Anything else?
Try describing your relationship with this girl in more detail. It's hard to guess what she might be thinking if you don't give any details.
And what does committed mean? Married? Engaged? Dating?
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Written on: 10. May 2010 10:07
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Horus
registered since: 06.04.2010
Posts: 16
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I think I speak for the big majority of men when I say that we all go/went through this. Unfortunately, it usually doesn't end well for us :/ At least it never did for me.
My advice would be that you show her that you don't only love her as a friend. I don't know how the social conventions are in India but here I would start being more touchy, meaning more hugging and especially longer hugs, more flirting... Basically everything you would find in a book about picking up women. Also, try to adjust your body language so it says you are in control and that you want her.
If you'd like I can dust off my collection of books and give you a couple of titles
Good luck!
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Written on: 10. May 2010 12:56
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andrea24
registered since: 01.04.2010
Posts: 31
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Maybe you should try writing her a loooong love letter explaining your feelings. I think us girls usually like that kind of romance. If you two are meant to be, then all that's missing is perhaps that one detail.
And what if she likes you too but thinks you are not interested so she "settled for the next best man"?
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Written on: 13. May 2010 15:24
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William
registered since: 19.04.2010
Posts: 35
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If she falls hard for this guy, then she's likely to be gone anyway. It is a rare woman than can keep male friends close when they are falling for another man.
Women can handle feelings for two men. She might struggle with it mightily but she'll be flattered if you are caring. Just be sure to ask her to remain your friend and then explain your feelings for her.
Take her some place quiet but where she can feel safe. Hold her hand. Don't take more than two minutes. And then listen. Just don't talk. Just listen.
Good luck!
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Written on: 14. May 2010 11:06
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lollypop
registered since: 08.03.2010
Posts: 63
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And for God's sake, if she says she's serious about that guy and he's serious about her, don't try to logic her into choosing you. It won't work.
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Written on: 18. May 2010 11:23
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andrea24
registered since: 01.04.2010
Posts: 31
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Well? Any new information? Did you tell her?
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