Defloration

First intercourse can be very awkward, especially if both partners are inexperienced. So allow us to take you through a bunch of advice that can make your first sexual experience easier.

In this article we will not tell you to be ready, old enough, in love and not to feel any pressure. We will try to help you, so that your first experience is not too awkward.

Foreplay

Foreplay with a girl who is frightened and knows it will hurt is not as effective as you would like. Young girls are usually very shy and are not used to somebody sticking his tongue between their legs. So, do not try to be incredible and unforgettable lovers, but instead keep it simple. Girls want to see that we do not only want their body, but them. Even if you are confused by this kind of logic because you are a materialist, at least pretend. Women cannot see inside your head, they only see your actions. So stick to kissing and do not be too daring with your hands. You must arouse her body to such a degree that she is overcome by passion and her fear, which makes it impossible to be relaxed and feel pleasure, is destroyed. Take her clothes off slowly, one item at a time. You should not knead her body with your hands, but caress her. If you see she is embarrassed, you suggest you go under the covers or you can dim the lights. If the girl is not used to it, we do not recommend oral intercourse, even though you are great at it. A lot of girls find it hard to relax and this is no time to look for the reasons why.

Help and guide

Young girls usually have no clue about what to do with the male body. So help her by guiding her hand with your own hand. Put it around your penis and show her how to move it. If she does something wrong or something that causes you pain, bear with her a little if the pain is not too bad. Forget about porno movies where the guy sticks two fingers in her vagina, moves about like a rabbit and she comes after twenty seconds. That is science fiction. It is much better not to expect an orgasm at least for a month or two after beginning to have regular intercourse. The orgasm (vaginal) may actually never occur. If she has one the first time, so much the better. I advise you do not stick your fingers into her vagina, unless she masturbates in such a way. Gently slide your fingers along her vagina and wait until she is moist. Try to locate the clitoris and get her to an orgasm (if she has never had one, this will be a hard task as well). It is advisable to add some of your own saliva, but you must do it in a discrete and in an aesthetic manner. If you do everything right and the girl is a natural, her body will clearly exhibit signs of wanting to be penetrated. But this will most likely not happen.

Position

The only appropriate position for first intercourse is the missionary one. You will have to take my word for it. The argument is as follows. A lot of men think everything might be easier if the girl is on top, she will not feel any pain, she will be able to control the rhythm and so on. This is partly true, but you are forgetting the most important thing. The tearing of the hymen is painful. Even if there is no hymen, the dilation of the vagina causes pain, especially if the vagina is not moist or relaxed enough. So girls usually cannot do this because they are stopped by the pain. Because you see she is in pain, the penis goes soft and it all turns into a disaster. So, it is much better to perform the first penetration quickly and in one go (but do not push with all your force because you may injure her, not to mention the pain she will feel). Just like with a Brazilian depilation. And then you just stay inside her without moving until she is used to the pain and relaxes her vaginal muscles. She can embrace you in the missionary position, she sees you and knows that you are not inflicting pain on purpose. Right after this, you can roll over, so that she is on top, but it is best not to change positions too many times during the first intercourse. It may occur that the pain is too great, especially if the penis is too large. In this case, it is better to wait with the intercourse and use fingers or a dildo for a start. Do not think you have to please her on your first attempt. Do not hold back the ejaculation, but let your orgasm come naturally. Let her see you enjoying yourself and she will then also find it easier to enjoy herself, but do not expect an orgasm. If she stops feeling pain after two or three attempts, you are on the right track.

Relativity

Many people would not agree with what has been written here because they had a great first experience. Every girl loses her virginity once, perhaps she has that same sensation twice in her life. But if we collect enough data, we can draw some conclusions which will not be appropriate for all people, as is the case with all generalizations. Of course, I want every girl to lose her virginity by having the best intercourse of her life, but this is mostly not so. You can, however, avoid awkward situations and making out and do it right when it is your first time. Your hard work will pay off in the long run.